Sunday, 22 January 2012

This one's for all the girls out there!

I came across this open letter written by some random bloke, addressing all girls in general. I don't know whether this is the general perception every guy has in his mind, but at the end of it you'll definitely have a smile on your face and be thinking about that special someone, I'm sure!


Dear girls,
We guys don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there. We don't care if a guy calls OR texts you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is so important at 2 a.m., that it can't wait till the morning. Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop trying to convince you. The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.
Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take advantage of the mood we're in. Let us pay for you! Don't 'feel bad' . We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say 'thank you. Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed. You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you are. Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's or my t-shirt and boxers, not all dolled up. 
Don't take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily. Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that. Whatever happened to the word 'handsome' I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with 'Hey handsome!' instead of 'Hey baby/ stud/cutie/sexy' or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand I'm not saying I wouldn't like it ether.
Girls, I cannot stress this enough - if you aren't being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change!!!!! Ditch his sorry butt, the disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect.
Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say 'i love you' ..and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance.
Life is too short to complain about everything that comes your way so stop and smell the roses in life because you might never have another time to take it, so take your time because they are all different in every way, so take chances in life, if it doesn't work out then fine, there are always more roses to smell....
Are you smiling?  :)

Wednesday, 11 January 2012

A modern love story!

To all those spurned and scorned lovers and people who love to read love stories, come take a look at a modern love story. Sprinkled with tragedy, not penned by a Shakespeare or a Nicholas Sparks. And your heart still goes out to the people who were forced to choose anything but love.

Remember Aung San Suu Kyi? Yes, the same one we'd all read about in Political Science in school.Those who don't seem to know or recall her, simply put she is a popular leader of Myanmar who'd been under house arrest for nearly 15 years of the last 22 years she spent there.
Away from her husband and two young sons living in the UK, away from a marriage, a very happy one at that, of 16 years, away from the comfort and luxury of family life! She had a duty to fulfill towards a nation she called her own.Myanmar was in a political turmoil then and desperately needed a leader. Suu had then gone to Myanmar to meet her mother who was not keeping well. Being the daughter of a famous general, she seemed like the obvious choice for the people's leader.

Over the years which unfolded, she was placed under house arrest by the government, visa applications of her sons and husband denied and all means of communication with the outside world snatched. She was left with little choice herself, because if she left Myanmar even once, it would mean permanent exile for her. And she knew that very well. So did Michael Aris, Suu's husband. When Michael was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she could not even go and meet him! His love for her was boundless too. He would not hear of her return. He had silently campaigned for her cause throughout her house arrest tenure and supported her in every way he could.
As Michael's health faltered, Suu realised she might never see Michael again and put on a dress of his favourite colour, tied a rose in her hair, went to the British embassy, where she recorded a farewell film for him in which she told him that his love for her had been her mainstay. The film was smuggled out of Myanmar, only to arrive two days after Michael's death!

Who would have thought that behind the steel facade of this strong lady, lies a heart so full of love and longing?

In this harsh world, when you hear "Love has more hits than fear", a smile of hope crosses your face! :)

Tuesday, 3 January 2012

East or West - who treated Anuj Bidve better?

Yesterday night while flipping through news channels, I stopped at a leading Indian news channel where a debate was going on about the recent murder of Pune-based Anuj Bidve who had apparently been shot by a Briton in Manchester without any provocation. Many label it as a racist attack, many a hate crime n some as just a psychopath killer. Whatever be the reason, a family lost a son without any rhyme or reason, a 23 year old son whom they'd sent for higher studies to the UK, a boy they'd raised so that one day they could proudly say this man is my son. A bullet shot, a moment had taken it all away.
The debate started from sending condolences n heartfelt grievances to the family and continued along the lines of hate crime and racist attacks ending with the British media handling the crime better than the Australian media during the 2008 racist attacks on Indians.
Irritated, I put on the next channel. BBC. Bidve here too. But the stark difference was that the journalist was sitting with the Bidve family and sharing the moments they'd spent with Anuj. No mention of race, religion, nationality or hatred. Simply the sharing of a loss.

What struck me was the way the same murder case was being handled by the media.
While one was sensationalizing, the other sympathizing.

I am in no way comparing and evaluating the two groups of journalists. Rather I am simply laying down what I saw and what I felt as a common man.

I hope to God that the family finds the strength to endure this test of time too. And wherever Anuj is, may his soul rest in peace.

Monday, 2 January 2012

Happy New Year! :)

Every New Year Eve I take resolutions and then by the next week it is long lost and forgotten!

Often we come across quotes and wonder how true they are. We think about them for a minute, share it with someone close, maybe they linger on with us a day or two and then with the lapse of time they fade away.
Words which touched me in the journey of life in 2011...
  • Change is static.
  • God helps them, those who help themselves.
  • You've built your castles in the air, its time to lay the foundation beneath!
  • When the world says, "Give up," Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
  • Life is mostly froth and bubble,
    Two things stand like stone,
    Kindness in another's trouble,
    Courage in your own.
  • The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief. 
  • What we are is God's gift to us.  What we become is our gift to God.
  •  Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.
  • Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.
  •  Live life to the fullest, you get it just once! :)
 This year, more than resolving to do a particular thing, I wish I could remember to live life along these lines....:) 

Happy New Year to all! :)

May the world not end on 20.12.2012!